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Honeymoon after your Wedding
When did honeymoons turn into opportunities for extreme sports or become just another (slightly more exotic) vacation? It's true that most couples know one another better when they marry than people did earlier in history. Many live together before marriage. But that doesn't change the fundamental reason for a honeymoon.
Your honeymoon is an important part of your progression from courtship to marriage. It's time for the two of you to learn more about your beloved and to share more of yourself.
You don't have to go anywhere for your honeymoon, although if you can, that's great. But you do need to retire from the world. Infuse your time together with your excitement at finally, finally being married. Take the time to experience that. Use the time to bond and relax into one another's presence. The rest of your life, if your life is like anyone else's, is lived at warp speed. Marriages that last are made up of the slow quiet moments and not just the mountains scaled.
Instead of planning the mountain climbing expedition, consider exploring your marital hedonism:
* Take long slow walks together and talk about yourselves and your dreams.
* Sit and look at pictures (it's a digital world, there will be files!) from the wedding and tell stories about the people there.
* Review what made your wedding day wonderful, and silly, and horrible.
* Read your wedding vows to one another every day. Make love after reading them. This associates your lovemaking with your promises and your promises with the pleasures of marriage.
* Dedicate your lovemaking to exploring one another's pleasure and expressing your delight in your new union.
* Wear clothes that make you feel sexy and interesting and pleasing to your partner.
* Take pictures of one another looking lazy and happy and full of love.
* Eat foods that you linger over. Share.
* Read a book to one another. Discuss it.
* Swim in warm water, take a bath or shower together.
* Have a massage and learn how to give one another massage.
* Snuggle up outside and look at the infinite sky. Reflect on the fact that your marriage possibilities are that vast.
* See the sun rise at least once together.
This is your time to figure out what makes you tick as a couple. It's also a time to build up great reserves of love and respect. I know, you'll need to go to the gym or you'll die. So do that. But the rest of the time, consider a marathon of slowly exploring the sweetness between you. I can't imagine you'll regret it.
You'll need to plan this as carefully as you planned the wedding ceremony, wedding reception and wedding vows. You'll need to pack massage oils along with your sunscreen. But the experience will be worth it. And the gift it will give your marriage will be incalculable.
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